It is extremely difficult for a small church pastor to fill unwritten expectations, those expectations that pop up in a conversation or possibly, a boardroom. A non-attendee, and non-tither will abruptly come with a list of expectations making ministry difficult. Expectations come from all directions, affects all subjects and aims at all people, especially leadership.
Look at this list of the assuming nature of expectations:
Expectations are not written down.
Expectations contain unfair comparisons to the last pastor.
Expectations change and are mostly inconsistent.
Expectations are called out loudly by negative people.
Expectations and Job Descriptions may vary.
Expectations may carry an ounce of truth.
Not all expectations re to be treated the same. Some deserve intense evaluation while others you can simply brush off. Look at a few of the major assumptions about expectations and Fact Check each one.
Expectations are Exasperations
Criticizers believe “if you would do this,” then “this would happen.”
Fact Check: Sometimes true but most often not true. Excellent results are not directly related to busy-ness but are most likely tied to efficiency.
Expectations are Excuses
Negative people blame someone else for the problems they see. Critics are not apt to claim personal responsibility but rather cast stones.
Fact Check: Teams should be responsible and every team player should make a difference. Spread out responsibilities and each one carries the load, not just a few.
Expectations are Expungable
People tend to forget their personal mistakes but remember other’s mistakes.
Fact Check: If a mistake has been made, forgive and go on. Don’t hang on to unmet expectations as a cause for an unjustified vacancy or exit.
Expectations are Editors
Editors correct, repair and replace words; expectations can correct, repair and replace actions.
Fact Check: Not all unwritten expectations are bad or to be taken as unnecessary criticism. Listen carefully, there may be some wise counsel vailed within the words of the critic.
Expectations are Echoed
Once an expectation has been voiced, realize more than one may have heard it.
Fact Check: Not everyone believes it.
Expectations are Earmarks
Progress, vision and action is often met with unfair criticism; a true expectation may be time for a change but in another direction.
Fact Check: Earmarks determine a possible change is due, check with a mentor or your team if direct changes are needed.
Expectations are Ecliptic
The danger of varied “expectational” complaints cloud the future and block the vision.
Fact Check: Keep focused,the end is not yet; it is not over. Your focused leadership will help clear the air.
Expectations are Exams
Ask yourself the question, “Is this honestly justifiable?”
Fact Check: Value insight from trusted leaders not from “recliner coaches.”
Effective leadership, creating “buffer” teams and continued communication determines the important, the urgent and the non essentials. Creating a team who supports and creates the vision, determines personal responsibilities and communicates the vision is helpful to cut off unwritten expectations.
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